23 thoughts

  1. Poor girl. She sounds like a very sensible child with a good head on her shoulders…and she certainly doesn’t deserve what’s happening at home. Not all of us have the chance to help others, sadly. The world is an unfair and unjust place at times…and maybe we’re really meant to find our own way. Hope you’ve been well and have a good week.

    • I’m not sure I agree with your sentiment that we don’t all have the chance to help others, Mabel. We do. I only meant that it isn’t my place to, say, try to adopt this girl and take her away from her family, etc. But I can still help her. I’m contemplating writing her a letter and trying to stay in touch with her after the school year’s over, but we’ll see. I do agree that we all must find our own way, but no one goes the whole way alone. We all need help along the way.

  2. That is sad. At least you are providing a temporary respite for her. I wish the people who decide how or if we should help children and families could spend a few days in your classroom before making up their minds about the value of the effort.

    • The effort is definitely worth it. All kids deserve a chance to be loved and safe and wanted. It’s unfortunate that not all lives start off on that footing.

  3. What you are doing though is giving her a refuge for a few hours a day. And you may be that teacher she remembers years from now. The one that made a difference for her. The one that helped point her in the right direction and rise above what is going on in the rest of her life.

    Years ago, when my older son was in fourth grade, I volunteered in his class once a week. I worked with the lowest performing kids while the teacher spent some time with the highest performing kids — giving them a little extra work and instruction. It was incredibly difficult to see how far behind those kids were and to wonder what was going on at home that prevented them from moving forward at the same pace as most of the other kids. I, too, wish I could have done something more. I wanted to follow the kids home and scream at the adults in their lives. Or spend more time with the kids. Something. Anything.

    • So sorry for my late reply! I started a response last weekend and just never had a chance to finish it. I hope these kids remember me. But 1st grade is awfully young… My own memories from the first grade are pretty dim.

      I understand your comment about the disparity between some kids’ learning. It *is* sad, and sometimes shocking. One of the students I work with in this classroom is WAY below grade level — for both social and psychological reasons. And what kills me is that they’re just pushing him along. I guess holding him back won’t do him any good because they don’t think he’ll ever catch up. He isn’t retaining anything he learns. Interestingly, his mother looks older, is diabetic, and speaks only Spanish. It is so true that what happens at home is probably the biggest indicator of what will happen in the classroom.

  4. All the love you give this child is building up her spirit, feeding her and giving her an opportunity to find a better way. She may not remember you, but your work WILL have an effect on her future.

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